Friday, June 20, 2014

Are we, Women, our Worst Enemies?

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Are you familiar with those headlines? I am sure you are, they are everywhere, yet none of us would admit that we ever enjoyed reading such articles. I must confess, I used to read articles like that. I used to scrutinize their pictures in search of the slightest imperfection, and then I would treacherously criticize the model with a certain feeling of satisfaction. Shameful, huh? Magazines such as Cosmopolitan, Glamour, or the prestigious Vanity Fair, depend on women's addiction to gossip for their sustainability. This behavior is intolerable. As women in a male dominated society, we need to stand together in support of each other instead of being another headache to deal with. 
Strong women come in all shapes and sizes. Source Blogger
Nowadays, more women refuse to accept unhealthily thin body types as a female body prototype. Promoting unrealistic perfect bodies retouched by Photoshop, Social Media contributes to depression and negative body image in women and young girls. Campaigns spreading positive body image awareness among young women are growing in number. For instance, the controversial campaign led by the Italian fashion brand Lolita portraying the anorexic model Isabelle Caro. Unfortunately, what seemed to be the light at the end of the tunnel has lately turned against us. 

I am a regular reader of the fitness guru and creator of Pop Pilates Cassey Ho's blog, and I have recently perceived an increasing amount of body shaming among women. If fat-shaming wasn't enough, the new fashion is to hate on thin girls too. Reading through the blog, we just have to check the comments on the most recent picture of a thin, yet fit and healthy, woman to see her body viciously criticized under the motto "real women have curves". Depriving a woman of her identity, calling her "un-real" by the mere fact of not having "curves", is as damnable as fat shaming. We all come in different shapes and sizes, and we are all real women.  

I have also observed, that women, including me, are often more supportive to women whom they consider to be "inferior". That means, as long as we don't feel threatened by another woman we're compassionate and supportive. Now, considering a woman our "competitor" may make us feel vulnerable, insecure, and our survival instinct leads us to put them down. The fact of being threatened by another woman's beauty rather than her intellect proves women to unconsciously perpetuate the male view of women as sexual objects.

It stands to reason that women suffer a great deal of pressure to meet society's standards. Nevertheless, no matter how hard we try, most of us will never achieve such ideals, so they are ideals and not realities. If we all could wear a size 0, being thin would not be something special, it would be average, and the average is not "attractive". We should be aware that there's nothing wrong in not achieving those ideals.

"There is a special place in hell for women who don’t help other women.”  Madeleine Albright, Former U.S. Secretary of State.

I know that quote is harsh, but if we give it a further consideration, we realize how shameful it is, for us women, to discriminate each other for our appearance. Everyday, we are not only discriminated for being women, we are also physically and psychologically abused, despised, harassed, and a long etcetera. Women, let's not make this list longer. There is still a long way to achieving gender equality, and we will never win this battle if we are just adding fuel to the fire. We can make a change, we can be happier and more powerful if we put our effort in supporting each other and stand together.

3 comments:

  1. I really really like this post! I think you're completely right in saying that we are in fact, all real women, whether we have a lot of curves or not. It's crazy how some people have simply gone from fat-shaming to attacking girls who are skinny, as if that was more acceptable. Every body is different and being healthy doesn't look the same on everyone. Again, i love that you wrote this post, it is such an important subject in our society nowadays :)

    xx Lisa

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  2. Firstly, I would like to apologize for answering to your comment late :) Secondly, I am really glad that you liked the post. This has become a pretty controversial topic lately, and I am glad that my message was understood. I know that all the movement of "real women" begun with the best of the intentions, but I think some people just brought it to such an extreme that it is not positive anymore. Thank you very much for your positive feedback, this keeps me motivated to continue writing :)
    xoxo

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  3. Firstly, I would like to apologize for answering to your comment late :) Secondly, I am really glad that you liked the post. This has become a pretty controversial topic lately, and I am glad that my message was understood. I know that all the movement of "real women" begun with the best of the intentions, but I think some people just brought it to such an extreme that it is not positive anymore. Thank you very much for your positive feedback, this keeps me motivated to continue writing :)
    xoxo

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